In this exciting birthday episode of The Self-Confidence Project, I’m sharing nine crucial body language signals that indicate a woman is sexually interested in you. Throughout the show, I emphasize the importance of recognizing a combination of these signals rather than relying on just one. The episode covers a range of signs from sneaky glances and lip biting to subtle touches and mirroring gestures, aimed at helping you better understand women’s cues and foster deeper, more romantic connections in your dating life.
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Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of the self-confidence project. I am your host, Kimberly, and it’s a very exciting day for me today because today. He’s my birthday. So happy birthday to. Me today, but really what I wanted to do was give you guys the gift of finally talking about the subject that I haven’t. Broached on my podcast so far. Which is, how do you know if a woman is interested in you? Sexually. How do you know if she’s attracted to you? So there’s a difference between how do you know she’s engaged and enjoying the conversation or sees you as a friendly person? Really what we want to dive into.
And I want to share with you today as a birthday gift is what are the signs? The body language signals that a woman is going to begin giving off. If she’s interested in you. Sexually romantically. She’s got a element of attraction towards you. So that is what we’re going to [00:01:00] dive into in today’s podcast.
So stay tuned for that. But of course, if you’re brand new to this podcast, I want to welcome you. Here. We talk all things, life and dating and relationships, and just how to navigate this. Wild wacky world that we’re all in. Right. And when you’re out there and you’re single and you’re dating, you’re in vulnerable positions and it’s often when we get into the most overthinking of our lives, right. What is she thinking?
What does she want from me? What a women want from me. And so today I just want to outline nine body language signals that you want to understand and be mindful of and begin looking out for when you start to approach and have conversations. With women in person. Okay. So we’re just going to skip all the intro and dive straight in today. Now, when I share with you, these body language signals, what I really want you to be mindful of is that. One of these body language signals. [00:02:00] In and of itself alone is not necessarily indicator of her sexual attraction to you. What you really want to be looking out for is a combination of what I’m going to share with you today. So, for example, we’re going to dive into this in more depth in a moment here, but one of the signs that a woman is interested in you sexually, or has a low, uh, element of attraction towards you, is that she’s going to start glancing over in your direction. And a woman is going to do this very slyly or shyly because she doesn’t want to get caught. Now, if you are out somewhere in public and you notice that a woman has looked your way and you immediately take this as a sign that she’s sexually attracted to you. You might be jumping the gun a little bit, which is why I think it’s really important.
You understand all nine of the signals. I’m going to share with you today and understand that you want to be looking out for a combination of a few of them. To get that. I sense that she is in fact interested in you because if a woman just happens to look your way, it doesn’t necessarily [00:03:00] mean that that alone means she’s sexually attracted to you.
It’s if she does that. And combines it with some of the other signs over time that you can be pretty darn sure that she’s into you in that way. So. Disclaimer for warning is look for a couple of these things happening across a time horizon. Right? Okay. So the first one I’ve already given it away. A woman is going to look your way.
She’s going to sneak glances at you. Okay. And she does this, she does this cheekily because, well, she doesn’t really want him to get caught. Right. When we mean look your way. It does indicate that she’s interested in seeing you learning information. That you’re giving her from your outward appearance and your own body language and your own movements.
But she is probably a little certain that this very early stage about making direct eye contact with you. We know that when we [00:04:00] make direct eye contact with somebody that is very intimate, it’s very intense, which is why we look at people. And then we look away. It’s very difficult to gaze into somebody’s eyes.
In fact, eye gazing is a very deeply intimate exercise. Is that couples can do to create a connection to each other. So it’s very unlikely that two strangers or two people that are only just getting to know one another are going to have a lot of prolongated. Eye contact with each other. Cause. That shit makes people very nervous.
So a woman who’s interested in you or thinks you’re attractive, she’s going to glance very quickly your way. And if she sees you looking at her, she’s going to look away. She might do that, obviously, right. She’s trying to gauge your interest without appearing too forward. Now, women do this because. You know, our behavior as women is, is often rooted in a mix of curiosity. But also caution. Right.
So she might be very attracted to you, but she doesn’t want to [00:05:00] seem overly eager. And so this shy little glances that she’s going to do in your direction are her way of expressing interest while also like you guys do. Uh, protecting herself from a potential rejection. Okay, so sign number one is she’s going to take cheeky little glances in your direction, more than one of them. Okay.
The second sign, and this is likely going to happen. If you are now involved in a conversation with this woman. A woman is going to start to. Bite her lips. Or she’s going to lick her lips.
And she might not even notice that she’s doing this because lip licking. And lit biting. All right, is a very subconscious signal of attraction. It can very much be a way of drawing attention to her mouth and to her lips, which as we know, are very [00:06:00] central part of the body. It also can indicate in a woman that she has a heightened level of nervousness and excitement.
So sometimes even when, you know, in a non-sexual situation, if a woman is focusing or studying. He might. Do this while she’s really focused on something, but in the context of you and her and an environment where you’re chatting and getting to know one another, and she starts to. And do this while listening to you. It can be a sign of arousal or anticipation. And our bodies are naturally responding to the excitement by moistening our mouth, our lips, right. It can also be a way of her subtly signaling to you that she’s interested in physical closeness or intimacy.
Some women who are a little more bull, a little more confident, a little more devious. May not be doing this unconsciously. They might be doing it consciously because they know. That [00:07:00] men look towards movement, right? Biologically men look towards movement. That’s why guys, you can’t. I can’t find anything in the fridge, unless it’s going, Hey, I’m over here.
Right? Side joke. Right? So a woman who is aware of this is going to create movement in a very essential area of her body because she’s into you. And she is letting you know in a very small way. That she is attracted to you. So licking of the lips, biting of the lips, the second body language signal that women will give off to men, they are sexually attracted to. Sign number three. One that you might not be aware of. She’s going to tilt her head to the side.
Sometimes women just do this.
We’ve we’ve all made fun of the whole legally blonde, like. Like right. The ditzy blonde that moves her head this way. But if she’s really interested in engaged, This is a sign of openness, receptivity it, um, in fact, can, in [00:08:00] some cases, expose the neck. Right, which is a very vulnerable area of a woman’s body. And that’s going to indicate that she’s feeling a sense of comfortability around you.
She’s feeling safe around you. She’s exposing, um, uh, as vulnerable area of her body, but also she’s tilting her head because she’s. She’s getting comfortable. She’s really engaged in what you’re saying. This gesture. Uh, It conveys trust it conveys interest. It also is a big indicator that she’s listening intently to what you’re saying.
I don’t know why we necessarily do this, but when I think about when I’m really involved in what someone is saying, I don’t have the. The most straightforward posture. I kind of lean in and, and tell my hat. And I don’t know if it’s because it feels like I’m getting my ear closer to the person and making sure that I’m really hearing the words that they are annunciating.
Right. Um, this signals that I’m engaged and I want to hear what this person has to say. So when a woman tilts her head, This can be [00:09:00] a sign that she’s engaged. She’s interested, she’s comfortable and she’s sexually attracted to you now. Us kind of a secondary one to this is when she tilts her head. She might even.
Do it she’ll do it sexier than that.
She’ll flick her hair back. Right. She’ll talk her hair behind her ear. And what this does is again, it exposes the neck.
But it’s drawing attention to her face. It’s drawing attention to a central area of her body. Right. And it’s in this invitation for you to get closer. Let me move this wild hair out of the way. And like also by the way, this is where women apply their perfume. We apply perfume on the two most vulnerable areas of our body to areas that are very sensual, our wrists, right.
And our neck. So this also could expose a little bit of the perfume that she could be wearing. Now, why do women do this while [00:10:00] it’s a S you know, a little behavior that scene. Across a lot of different species. In fact, um, when we’re trying to attract a mate, It highlights. Our sexy features and it signals that we’re actually kind of grooming ourselves in your presence when women are not even going to be consciously aware of this, but this is what they’re going to do.
And they’re really into you. They’re like they’re tilting their head and they’re really engaged and their eyes are wide and they’re listening to everything you’re saying. And then all of a sudden you see her neck and she’s like, ah, doughy eyed, right? Okay. So. It’s a sign of attraction. Now what she’s also going to begin doing is moving closer to you. Moving closer to you is a very big sign that she is interested in you, and she’s safe in your presence.
It reduces the physical distance between you, which. Um, can often be correlated with emotional closest closeness, or we’re close to people that we feel emotionally close to [00:11:00] or we’re comfortable around. And, um, and so that’s what it does. It signals that comfortability. Now, when we close the distance between. Well, a woman closes the distance between herself and a man. Um, well, she’s increasing that potential for physical touch. Right. So it’s, it’s her non-verbal cue of putting herself in front of you. Which is a significant sign of interest, but when she moves her body closer to you, it’s much more likely that a touch is going to take place, which is then the next sign of interest.
The next sign that she sexually interested in you is that. Uh, light touches will begin happening. Now it’s not going to be super bold right away, but it’s those light casual touches that can happen on the arm, on the shoulder. She might like laugh on a joke and then touch your back or touch your forearm.
Right side note, by the way, if you are. [00:12:00] Um, If you are in the restaurant industry. And you’re a server or a waitress, whatever you call it these days, whatever’s politically correct. Right. And you actually touch the forearm of the person, um, of the table that you’re serving the person that is leaving the tip it’s it’s likely or psychological hack that the person leaving the tip will leave a larger tip. Because you’ve. You’ve created this like bond and connection, right.
Physical closeness, and sometimes being emotional connection. And so when you have a server who is, uh, has done a good job, but it also is kind of bridging that gap between us and them. Um, it’s likely that we’re going to get a larger tip anyways. So back to her. Lightly touching you. And so it’s not going to be in sexual area.
It’s going to be in very non-sexual areas. Um, but this creates a sense of closeness and familiarity. So she’s gonna, she’s gonna get. A sense of how comfortable you two are when you start to touch one another. Now, this [00:13:00] is a very powerful form of communication. Um, she’s saying, Hey, I feel really connected to you and I’m going to test how you respond to me. So, if she touches you and you kind of move away, she’s going to make a story in her mind that you’re not interested in her or you’re repulsed by her, or you don’t find her interesting, or you’re trying to get out of that conversation.
So when she touches you and you don’t. Lean out you lean in, or maybe you begin to start lightly touching her back. Well, now you guys are fostering that kind of safety and closeness and mutuality that is really important in these interactions. So light touching really important. I’ve said it to you guys before that when you’re on a date, as you get to know a woman, Throughout the course of that evening on your date that you want to be situated next to each other in your seats versus across each other at a dinner table, for example, which gives off the whole. Uh, really serious professional kind of interview style, where [00:14:00] again, too much eye contact us happening and people can feel really awkward.
So when you’re on a date with a woman, You in fact, want to, um, kind of sit at bar tables together, right? So you can be, you know, touching shoulders or instead of sitting across from each other at a table, maybe you’re at a table that has four seats sit on the sides so that you’re close to each other so that as the evening goes better and better and better, you actually have that opportunity to reach under the table and touch your leg, or be close to her, have that kind of almost OPES accidental touch that happens because you just leaned in. To laugh at a joke and you happen to touch arms, right?
So you want to be situated in a position where that kind of stuff can happen naturally, but a woman is going to attempt to touch you and get close to you physically because she’s interested, she’s attracted and she. Attracted to you. And she is testing to see how you respond to being touched by her.
Now, if things are going really well, a bolder woman might even start to. [00:15:00] Um, reposition herself in her seat. Okay. And sometimes that can be a sign of discomfort, but when she is doing it, And she’s getting closer to you. Tilting your head. You know, exposing her neck.
I don’t know, biting her lip and all of that.
And she might even start. Um, Accentuate her cleavage women do this, right? And this is a much more overt sign of flirtation. It’s a way of using her body to communicate that she’s sexually interested in you. This can even be an unconscious thing, right? Some women will do it consciously, but most women won’t.
Most of them are like, I’m not going to, I’m going to get closer to him and shove my moves in his face. Right? Most women are just going to naturally start getting closer to you. And as a result, they start to kind of squish their body together. Other, and that can actually accentuate the cleavage. Which is a pretty big sign that she is. Finding you attractive.
She’s [00:16:00] interested in your attention. And she’s showing a part of her body. That of course is very appealing to a potential mate. Okay. There’s still a few signs left. So a woman, again, as you see a number of these things happening, you can really start to take it as a pretty sure sign that she’s sexually attracted to you.
But one of these things on their own. Isn’t necessarily a sign, right? You might be having a nice conversation with a woman. She’s not biting her lip. She’s not exposing your neck. She’s not tilting your hair, but you make a joke. That’s funny. And she touches you on the shoulder. You don’t want to necessarily go, oh, she’s super physically into me. Um, she might just be a friendly person.
That’s comfortable with touch. It’s when these things start to happen, a bunch of these things start to happen and you can go, okay. I’m starting to really understand how to read the signs of women. Here are. Bodies are giving a lot of information about where we’re at in our minds. Okay. So one of the things a woman is going to do [00:17:00] when she is, uh, quite attracted to you, she’s going to begin to mirror your gestures.
Now, this is something I talk about a little more extensively in an older YouTube video that I did on your ultimate guide to flirting. And I go into a lot more. Uh, definition about what mirroring is, but it’s really when we start to subconsciously mimic the body language of the person next to us, our partner, our date, or, you know, a guy that we’ve seen in a bar that we’re interested in.
So. If we’re talking to you and you’re standing and you put your hand in your pocket, we might kind of reach to put our hand in our pocket, or if we don’t have a PA pocket, he might kind of just copy that gesture and just like put our hand on our hip or if, um, You are sitting at a cafe and you decide to take perfect opportunity to sip your coffee.
She might go ahead and do the same thing.
Just subconsciously mimicking your body language. And [00:18:00] maybe you decide you’re a little comfortable, so you kind of uncross your legs and sit back. Well, she might do the same thing very slowly after you. And this is a way of building a lot of rapport between two people. And it creates a, it creates a sense of comfort and familiarity because what happens when you’re really out of sync is it, it creates discord.
If you’re leaned back and comfortable that she’s like frigid and nervous, there’s discord. If, uh, your, um, you’ve, you know, you’ve crossed your legs and, and you’ve moved kind of. In words in your body language, and she’s kind of just sprawled out, probably not what a woman’s going to do, but if you’re there’s discord in your body language, this isn’t a good sign.
So when we start to mirror our. Uh, our date or our partner or somebody that we’ve met to gestures. It’s a common social behavior that occurs when we feel connected to somebody. It’s our unconscious way of saying, um, I am on the same wavelength [00:19:00] as you I’m here in this moment with you. I get what your body language is saying.
And I want mine to say the same so that we are comfortable in this interaction. She’s likely attempting to build a deeper connection with you by mirroring your gestures and your body language. And lastly,
Women. Well, Play with their hair.
Now playing with their hair can be a sign of nervousness. You’ve probably seen movies where, you know, women are really playing with their hair. Um, But if a woman is. On a date and she finds you attractive or you’ve met her and she finds you attractive. She’s sexually into you. What is she going to do with that nervousness? She’s going to move her hair around.
It’s going to use her hair as a tool to. Get that energy out of nervousness out of our fingertips. Now, sometimes we’re just going to do this because it’s flirty. It’s flirty to like, I don’t know, do this. Maybe I’m [00:20:00] not really good at doing it, but like, you know, again, she’s drawing your attention to this part of her body.
So this hair touching this hair, twirling is a sign sometimes of that nervous energy and self-consciousness, but it can also be a way to draw attention to her femininity and to appear more attractive to you. Um, you know, to bring your attention to her beautiful long hair, whatever it might be. Right. So just make sure she’s doing that in a non weird and awkward way.
Like I am. And so these are. These are the body language signals. That women will begin to give off over time towards a man that she is attracted to, that she’s sexually interested in. And what’s important here. Like I said, in the beginning of this show is that you’re seeing a couple of these things happening over time. A quick glance, your way is not just an outward sign of attraction.
She could just be, [00:21:00] um, she could have just heard a noise and looked over that way or. She might even look over because you’re wearing something that is really outlandish. That is. Drawn her attention. Right. But if she’s glancing your way. And then you’re in a, uh, conversation or if you’re even not a conversation yet, but she’s glanced your way.
And then she starts to move closer to where you are. Um, and then she starts to do some of these gestures, like even with her girlfriend, right. Women will do this too. It’s fascinating. If a woman sees a guy she’s attracted when in, but he hasn’t approached her. She’ll glance his way. And then even if she’s talking with her girlfriends, she’ll start to do these flurry gestures with her girlfriend.
They’re not for her girlfriend. They’re for you. She’ll start to do this and expose the knack, knowing that you’re over here and can see it. And then she’ll keep looking your way. And then she might even make herself look more sexually attractive. So women will do this, even if [00:22:00] you’re not in conversation with her.
But of course, you’re going to notice this probably more, obviously when you are in direct communication with her. So. I hope this hasn’t been insightful. I hope this has been helpful. Look out for these signs. Right. Look out for these signs and women to get a sense. Because women will outwardly tell you that they’re attracted to you.
They will let their body do the talking. So you want to look out for these signs that she is in fact, sexually attracted to you. Thank you guys for tuning in to today’s episode. This is my little birthday gift to you guys, diving into this topic to help you find a lot more clarity. When it comes to women’s body language.
And I hope that tonight, as you guys are out there celebrating that you notice a beautiful woman looking your way. Ciao.
